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Anliette's avatar

This. This is true in social settings too. As an HSP - I get tired of people just brushing the surface when conversing. Same tropes same mediocre answers. Same conversations - it’s rare to find people who are willing to go deep. Thanks for the graph, did you come up with this? 🙌🏻

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Andrea Chiarelli's avatar

Thanks for the comment, I do see what you mean! I find this difficult both at work and in my personal life - you’re right that not so many people are willing to go deep.

I did come up with the framework and idea for the graph (the original title for this post was ‘the truth lives in level three’). But I didn’t draw it myself, we have Napkin to thank for that 😉

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Making Numbers Matter's avatar

Thank you very much, Andrea. Great insights and very well described! The usual advice that we all should improve our listening skills is usually quite unspecific. You make it much more specific what good listening is about. This is really helpful. I especially liked the expression of ‘creating space for complexity rather than demanding simplicity’ in conversations.

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Andrea Chiarelli's avatar

Thank you so much for the feedback, I’m happy to hear this framing helps. This is the stuff I wish I’d had when I first started my job…!

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Making Numbers Matter's avatar

Yes, same for me!

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3 Questions Deep's avatar

Great breakdown of the process.

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Andrea Chiarelli's avatar

Thank you, and thank you also for resharing!

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James Butcher's avatar

Great essay, Andrea. Very nicely done indeed.

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Andrea Chiarelli's avatar

Thank you James, much appreciated!

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James Butcher's avatar

That was my level 1 response. Please don’t quiz me to get to level 4. I’m not ready for that just yet. I need to digest the contents.

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Andrea Chiarelli's avatar

😂😂👌🏼 best comment - I won’t press further.

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