7 Comments
User's avatar
Matt Woods's avatar

Picture this: Leadership Training. Multiple people in the room near shaking during the classic ‘difficult conversations’ segment.

“I just, just can't imagine having that talk with my staff”.

Welp then, here's your rude awakening - you're not a leader.

Jennifer Houle's avatar

Yes! You don’t just get to pick which parts of leadership you want to do 😂

Andrea Chiarelli's avatar

😂😂 Agreed! Someone should tell them…

The Mindful Manager's avatar

This was a great read, appreciate you sharing it

Andrea Chiarelli's avatar

Thank you! 🤩

Tony Tsang's avatar

This lands. Feedforward is useful when it supports the conversation owed — not when it replaces it.

🥬 Small piece of celery: when leaders avoid the specific hard conversation, they don’t eliminate the discomfort. They transfer it. The receiver pays by decoding, second-guessing, and trying to learn from fog.

The hummus, if we’re willing to reach for it: name the specific event cleanly, separate judgment from dignity, then use feedforward to build the next move.

Clarity is kindness only when it actually arrives. And once it arrives, it earns its keep and then some.

Andrea Chiarelli's avatar

Glad to hear that, Tony! And yes, I completely agree. Pretend feedback leaves people with even more self doubt.